Two and a half years ago I met my Danish lush bearded boyfriend while working on a project in Stockholm. He was intense and funny, and I fell for him like a little a little kitty trying to balance on the laundry basket edge.
Fast forward our love story eight months- and about a gazillion whatsapp messages- and I found myself on a plane with my suitcases packed full of dresses & crafting materials.
We've since lived together in this city that is known as "Venice of the North", but now my bf has decided he wants to take on new challenges in his career and the time has come for us to move on from this place. In just a month we will temporarily move back to my home town Helsinki in Finland, and to be honest, I'm preeeetty excited about this sudden turn of events.
The thing about moving to another city or country is that you kinda get a chance to redefine & reinvent yourself. I've lived abroad in four different countries, both as a child and on my own as an adult, and every time I felt I took a leap in the personal growth department.
Since this isn't the first time I'm returning home after being away, there are some things I know I'll be surprised haven't changed, and others things that most likely have.
1. No one's become a millionaire
I often noticed I thought everyone at home would've taken huge leaps in their life and suddenly have it all figured out when I returned. Turns out this is often not the case.
Actually I distinctively remember often being struck by how little anything has changed, which was often a comforting realization. It made me feel a lot less like a loser for not being the #bosslady who is coming back with the perfect life.
2. Say hello to clicking the Facebook "going" button again
While you've been away you've probably gotten a ton of invitations to Facebook events, parties and birthdays, all of which you missed. At some point you might have just started ignoring the invites because it made you feel a little sad every time you realized you couldn't attend because "I'-followed-my-heart-and-moved-away-from-my-social-life". So, say hello to that "going" button again, hurray!
3. Going to the grocery store is just SO nice and easy at home
There really isn't any place like home to buy groceries I've found. Sure, abroad they might have all kinds of fun & different stuff that tastes exotic & different, but for some reason food at home just has that special ingredient, that taste of belonging and familiarity.
4. It's really nice to live close to Mom
I talk to my Mom a lot on the phone, but nothing beats being able to hang out with her and my Dad in person. Every problem I have, be it a love or career related, or just to ask about laundry tips, Mom is there to help. So much nicer to be close to her.
5. Your style has changed more than you think
Every time I lived in a place for a long time I started to pick up on style & fashion influences, both on purpose but also without consciously noticing it. In Berlin I wore a lot of thrifted stuff like oversized knits and polka dot dresses, in Amsterdam I got really into wearing bold colors and floral prints, in Sweden I've slowly but surely gone more towards the Scandinavian minimalism, but still with some romantic touches.
It's going to be exciting to see how it feels to return back home, and this time I'm bringing a man with me from my years abroad, haha! Check out this modern day woman feminist pirate is all I'm saying ;)
How about you, have you ever returned back home after spending time abroad and found surprising discoveries?
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